People do good because they are human, not because they are religious! 

Do not give God any credit for the good they do, they did it!


It is easy to see that if people say God sends suffering to others they are condoning it. But what if they suffer themselves?

Your talk about God being with you in the middle of your suffering could mean:

-That it is okay for God to let you suffer even for nothing as long as he is with you. In other words, it is not suffering or depression or anything else that is bad but just being unloved. That is perverted dishonest insane logic. Religion teaches that if hypothetically Satan plunges the universe into a place of eternal, horrendous and complete and unimaginable despair and suffering at least God still loves us.

Those who say that God is with you in your suffering are suggesting that maybe if you don't sense it then it is your fault. If you are depressed, you will blame yourself.  They are saying that as long as God loves you and that love does you no good and  you have to settle for just knowing you are loved you should shut up.


In fact religion says God alone matters or comes first meaning that all you must care about is his love and not about getting anything out of it.  That is warped for we do not appreciate love just because it is love.

-That he has a plan and is with you to help make things better for as many as possible and maybe for you as well. The truly good person will not then worry about how the plan or believing in it is going to benefit her or him. It will be about others. Trying to help matters more than successfully helping. Thus taking pleasure in life should be a side-effect of doing good and have nothing to do with what good is about. If God has a plan, it does not follow that you will benefit from it. You are meant to be glad that God is doing the best thing possible even if it does not involve you.


The plan thing amounts to telling a sick or dying person that they are not important enough or good enough or useful enough for God to give them a better place in his plan. If you really love somebody you want the plan to be about them. And nobody has the right to imply what faith in God replies. Faith in God is not important enough for that.


Either way, you are saying that God's role and responsibility for your suffering (and by implication others) should be condoned.
The person who agrees with God letting awful things happen to you or to an innocent baby has no right unless they sincerely would take the suffering themselves if they could. Their saying they can do it is easy. Too easy.
The person who believes in God necessarily risks condoning evil or actually does condone it but is not giving it away. That makes it your business for it is your suffering or potential suffering they have the bad attitude towards. They are the ones who would vote in the service of faith, who would call themselves your friend and claim to love you. Confront and challenge them. Do not demean yourself by letting it go!