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The

Gospel According to

Atheism

 

 

I.      EARTHLY SALVATION PROMISE

II.     HEALING POWER OF ATHEISM

III.    ONLY GOD YOU NEED IS YOU

IV.    FREE WILL IS A LIE

V.      FREE FROM HATRED & GUILT

VI.    THINK FOR YOURSELF

VII.   NON-EXISTENCE OF GOD

VIII.  EVIL OF RELIGION

IX.    ATHEISM: JOY & MEANING OF LIFE

X.     THE HUMANIST WAY

XI.    ENJOYMENT OF SEXUALITY

XII.   BARE ESSENTIALS

XIII. ABOUT HUMANISM

XIV. ULTIMATE TRUTH THEOREMS

 

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PART 2 OF THE GOSPEL, THE HEALING POWER OF ATHEISM
 
HOW TO LOVE YOURSELF
PRINCIPLE 1, YOU WANT TO BE HAPPY!
PRINCIPLE 2, YOU CAN BE HAPPY!
PRINCIPLE 3, TO LOVE YOURSELF ALONE IS ONLY RIGHT
PRINCIPLE 4, FEAR - THE FATHER OF EVIL
PRINCIPLE 5, NOBODY MAKES YOU UNHAPPY BUT YOU
PRINCIPLE 6, LET HAPPINESS COME
PRINCIPLE 7, BE EASY TO PLEASE
PRINCIPLE 8, YOU JUST NEED TO SEE YOUR WORTH
PRINCIPLE 9, EGOISM IS THE WAY TO GO!
PRINCIPLE 10, DISTRACTED SELFISHNESS IS YOUR SALVATION
PRINCIPLE 11, SEE THAT YOU ARE NOT A SINNER
PRINCIPLE 12, BE YOUR OWN PERSON

HOW TO LOVE YOURSELF

The First Principle of Self-love is to see that you want to be happy.

The Second Principle of Self-love is to see that you can be happy.

The Third Principle of Self-love is that love for yourself alone is only right and nothing else is possible and nothing else can cause you to be happy.

The Fourth Principle of Self-love is seeing that fear of unhappiness is the cause of all human evil for you do evil for you think it is going to make you happy and fear is caused by ignorance. Because self-love or happiness is the root of all good fear, has to be the origin of evil as manifested by humankind.

The Fifth Principle of Self-love is the recognition that you cause the fears you have and so only you can undo them and that nobody or nothing can make you unhappy unless you let them get them get to you.

The Sixth Principle of Self-love is not to try and force yourself to be happy or happier but to just let it happen and accept whatever amount of happiness you have. This avoids stress and fear which both increase unhappiness.

The Seventh Principle of Self-love is that you must reduce your needs. Be easygoing.

The Eighth Principle of Self-love is that you must do good to yourself and others and that will break down the barriers inside your head and heart that prevent happiness in yourself from emerging but do it to see that you are good not to earn a sense of that you are good.

The Ninth Principle of Self-love is to see that you must do everything altruists say you must do but the only difference is to have respect for yourself. This way you manage to retain the benefits of altruism and improve it by putting in the best of egoism. Neither altruism or egoism is perfect but egoism is the best of the two.

The Tenth Principle of Self-love is that you will be happier when doing kind deeds, if you forget what is in it for you and this act of forgetting is itself an act of self-love. When you have problems no matter how small it always helps to get your mind off yourself by keeping busy. This is a selfish act for you seek the pleasure of forgetting about what bothers you.

The Eleventh Principle of Self-love is that you should never condemn yourself no matter what you do but believe that what wrong you do is not you but faults in the programming in you. This attitude will remove guilt gradually.

The Twelfth Principle of Self-love is that you must not worry about what others think but just do good so that what bad things they think become insignificant. This involves the abandonment of the concept of a nosey God.

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PRINCIPLE 1, YOU WANT TO BE HAPPY!

The First Principle of Self-love is to see that you want to be happy.

Some insist that we do not want to be happy because we torment ourselves over things we don’t really need and we have to stop that and start wanting to be happy. The truth is we do want to be happy and that is why we run after things we think we need. Need means you require something in order to be happy. We need to be aware that we have had the bad habit of needing unimportant things for so long that our feelings block us from embracing real happiness easily.

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PRINCIPLE 2, YOU CAN BE HAPPY!

The Second Principle of Self-love is to see that you can be happy.

The natural state of every person is happiness. It is just that we let wrong thinking cloud our minds to this fact and warp our feelings and ideas to make us feel sad and angry and fearful.

The only exception would be people who suffer from a chemical disorder in the brain that prevents happiness. These people need medical help in unison with the secrets of happiness that Humanism offers. Nevertheless it is normal to be happy but if the disorder cannot be entirely cured they have to accept this for their own good. Nature does not always respect normality.

Happiness is not found in any person or thing for it is innate and all you have to do is let yourself experience it. It is part of you. It is there for the taking because it is already there and is just suppressed. Only you can make yourself happy. Nobody and nothing can get you down unless you let them or it. Even when it is impossible to feel good this remains true because you learned the habits that made it impossible over time and it will take a lot of un-learning to be free.

The proof that all you have to do to be happy is to decide to be is that when you find joy in God, people and things it is your judgement of them based on your intelligence, perception and your feelings that gives you the joy not them. It is just you using them for thrills. It is all you and about you. When it is all you to start with, it can be all you - period!

It is important to know that the prize of happiness is inside you for it encourages you and shows that there is every reason to be hopeful of attaining happiness.

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PRINCIPLE 3, TO LOVE YOURSELF ALONE IS ONLY RIGHT

The Third Principle of Self-love is that love for yourself alone is only right and nothing else is possible and nothing else can cause you to be happy.

Egoism is the doctrine that I should be selfish in a way that harms none intentionally. Egotism is the doctrine that I should be selfish and harm others if I want to. Altruism is the doctrine that I should not love myself but just love other people. Altruism is one and the same thing as sacrifice and declares that love is sacrifice. You have to believe in and follow one of these. You cannot move from one to the other and you have to stick with one. It would be inconsistent to egoistically make a grand meal for yourself and say you believe in altruism too while an altruist would prepare the meal for a friend. Because you cannot be happy if you do not use your head carefully for reason is in you for your self-preservation, the strongest instinct you possess, logic says choose egoism. It is best for you and for others.

When I sacrifice, I nevertheless do what I want to do under the circumstances so it is not a sacrifice for I am after gratification. When I say I want a car it is not the car that is important to me but the desire for the car and I have the desire for one end, self-gratification. Anything I do, I feel I want to do. Even when I hate doing it I feel it is best to do it under the circumstances so I like it more than I hate it. This is a very comforting thought. Be aware that when you are doing something that makes you feel bad that you want to do it more than not to and focus on this fact. This makes you feel happier about it. It makes you feel free and cherish that feeling. It helps you get over it.
 
I cannot help loving only myself and nobody else. When I say I love somebody I only mean I like what they do for me and enjoy my feelings and thoughts for them. I do not value them. I value myself because it is my delights I value. Therefore altruism is not an option.

The new fashion expressed in the view that doing good for others because you enjoy it and want to help them is unselfish is seriously mistaken. If you want to be unselfish, or altruistic as it is sometimes called, you have to believe that you should do nothing for yourself but just do it all for others and that the more you suffer to help others the better and if you should suffer so much then you should walk ten miles to get somebody a glass of milk if they ask you. Why? Because if helping others because it gives you emotional fulfilment is unselfishness then looking for money for yourself has got to be unselfishness as well for the motive or goal is the same: gratification. It is only the focus of your desires that is different and it is the motive that counts in determining if an action is selfish or unselfish. Unselfishness, thankfully, is impossible though there are disordered forms of selfishness that are disguised as unselfishness.

Those who tell you that you must sacrifice yourself and be altruistic or to love God or others are destructive to your self-esteem for they are telling you that you are only good if you can do the impossible.

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PRINCIPLE 4, FEAR - THE FATHER OF EVIL

The Fourth Principle of Self-love is seeing that fear of unhappiness is the cause of all human evil for you do evil for you think it is going to make you happy and fear is caused by ignorance. Because self-love or happiness is the root of all good, fear has to be the origin of evil as manifested by humankind.

The reason that love makes us happy is because it delivers us from fear.

If you are happy you treat others well and they are made happy by being around you and that makes you happier and feel safer in the world. The evil you do is caused by the fear of unhappiness. Since you have to love yourself to be happy, and happiness and self-love or self-esteem are exactly the same thing, it follows that if you develop a strong self-esteem you will not only feel you are a wonderful person but act it. Knowing how to be happy makes you happier for then you have the resources to make yourself happy and stay happy therefore ignorance is the cause of fear and its child, unhappiness. And fear is the root of all evil. The ignorance that causes fear is the ignorance that you should only love yourself and the ignorance concerning how best to achieve self-love. It is the ignorance that you are perfect as you are and ignorance also produces fear which leads to acts and thoughts of evil. We all fear what we do not understand and we are afraid of change because we are afraid of the new while we know the old better and consequently feel safer with the old. So that is where Humanism comes in. The philosophy is hoped to deliver you from ignorance and we are confident that it can! Our philosophy is the only way to salvation and merely knowing the philosophy and understanding it is a tremendous source of comfort for it gives hope.

Do not fight the evil that attracts you but simply see that it is a liar and promises happiness that it will not deliver. Just see it as bad and you won’t do it. To struggle with evil is to give evil power over you to inflict pain on you and to give it the hope of triumphing over you for it might win the struggle. To do evil even if it makes you happy for the rest of your life is to degrade yourself by becoming the vehicle for the origination of a force that has harmed you terribly and is against your dignity for that reason.

Love is often perverted into something that makes people harm themselves. Our job is to guide people to love themselves properly and this is the solution to all life’s problems.
 
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PRINCIPLE 5, NOBODY MAKES YOU UNHAPPY BUT YOU

The Fifth Principle of Self-love is the recognition that you cause the fears you have and so only you can undo them and that nobody or nothing can make you unhappy unless you let them get them get to you.

Every problem has to be identified before there can be any hope of solving it. The answer to every problem is inside you. It is not what happens in your life that hurts you but how you respond to it. Attitude is to blame for holding on to grudges and everything else in us that makes us feel bad. A bad attitude is caused by illogical thinking.

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PRINCIPLE 6, LET HAPPINESS COME

The Sixth Principle of Self-love is not to try and force yourself to be happy or happier but to just let it happen and accept whatever amount of happiness you have. This avoids stress and fear which both increase unhappiness.

The goal we all have in life is to be happy. To be happy we must accept that we will never be perfectly happy all the time and we must learn to be content with what we have. Why wreck the sober happiness you have just because you want more that you may not even get? If we aim to be perfectly happy we will destroy much of our happiness for going after what we cannot have. The lesson is to grab all the happiness you can out of all the happiness that is out there for you but don’t expect the impossible. Don’t expect to be able to make yourself ecstatically happy forever. Some say that happiness has nothing to do with feelings. But how could you be happy feeling nothing or not much when you know you have the power to feel better?
 
Do not confuse happiness or being content with getting loads of kicks for kicks are hard to make and you get sad if you cannot have them so you are better off just being content. They will lead to some level of addiction and addiction is slavery and you have to realise that happiness without looking for kicks adds up to more happiness than what the kicks alone would create.

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PRINCIPLE 7, BE EASY TO PLEASE

The Seventh Principle of Self-love is that you must reduce your needs. Be easygoing.

Reduce your emotional needs as much as possible for feeling the need for things like a fancy car is increasing pain for yourself – all desires that are not fulfilled are a bit painful at least. You have to do this forever. Obviously, you have to have some needs. You want food. You want drink. If you did not feel a need for them you would probably die. When the surplus feelings of needing are dealt with that is when you become selfish in the sensible and real way by needing very little. Don’t generate unnecessary needs for yourself and there will be less to disappoint you. The only thing you need to be happy is you and you have got you. When you reduce your emotional needs you still work for things like nice houses and trendy cars but you do it without the compulsion of needful desires and that way you get more enjoyment out of life and whatever you achieve is more worthwhile. Having too many needs will leave you in the habit of being anxious and self-pitying. The disciplined person can be starving to death in a desert and still not be worried about it. Feeling awful about it will only make her plight worse.

Happiness is achieved when you find more to be happy about than unhappy about in yourself. Remember, do not frustrate and reduce the peace you feel by looking for super self-esteem for that is failing to reduce your emotional needs to the basics. Just let whatever happiness comes come and welcome it even if the previous moment was happier.

To need a person or thing unnecessarily is to use them to fill your self-inflicted voids and is caused by fear and stupidity. This is true whether it is a physiological need such as the need for food or an emotional need such as for love. It is as far from love as you can get for needing makes demands on them to make you happy and all such demands are unfair and opposed to their freedom. To fail to let others be as free as possible is to maltreat them. Your outlook becomes one of refusing to be happy unless the “loved” object does x,y or z. To find happiness in yourself is selfish and is the one true selfishness.

When you just accept this happiness you will cease to consider yourself good and valuable because of what good you do or have done or will do to others but because of what you are. You will consider yourself good and valuable because you have found happiness and possess the will and power to be happier. Your being happy the rational way is the only thing you can consider worthwhile. We do good to others because we are happy and not because we want to feel good about ourselves for doing good. It is when we are detached like that, that we don’t have to fear our feelings turning sour and our happiness increases automatically. Respecting the freedom of others rescues us from loneliness.

Don’t try to change others. It is up to them to change themselves and the only person who you need to change in your life is yourself for you are the most important person to you. You will never be happy if you keep trying to interfere with others instead of working on your own self-development. That is making a need for yourself that you could do without.

Belief in God, divine revelation or in magic is evil for it is to blame for all the evil worked in its name simply because it is not needed and is something extra for humans to wage war over as if we don’t have enough excuses for strife. Those who support religion are being supportive of evil for they should know better and the secrets of the gospel are written on every heart and mind.

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PRINCIPLE 8, YOU JUST NEED TO SEE YOUR WORTH

The Eighth Principle of Self-love is that you must do good to yourself and others and that will break down the barriers inside your head and heart that prevent happiness in yourself from emerging but do it to see that you are good not to earn a sense of that you are good.

Happiness is identical to seeing and feeling that you are good enough to be happy. You have to get out there and help as many people as you can to see your goodness and you have to do it forever. Remember that what you do for yourself is as important. Just see how good you are. You don’t work to win happiness but to get rid of the clutter that prevents you from experiencing it.

Once you start liking yourself even a bit you will develop better feelings of love for yourself gradually so the only way is up but patience is vital! The fact that you have started to like yourself makes you a good person even if the opportunity to do some good has not come yet for your heart is good so liking yourself gives you a reason to like yourself and you must stand by that reason unconditionally. You must believe the reason is valid no matter what evil you will ever do. And why not? It is a good reason.

All desires are bad in a sense for they are at least a bit painful – they crave something you don’t have so they are painful. This tells us that we should fill our minds with the desire to be happy through making others happy for the lust for money and anger and hate are more painful and harder and therefore too painful. You should have desires you enjoy having because that makes them worth the pain.

You need other people to do good for them so that you will like yourself better so that you will see that you are good and happiness will be yours. It is too hard and often impossible to like yourself enough any other way. You need to work for a healthy self-image by being nice to others or by trying to and you need to do this all your life for you will wake up some mornings and not like yourself a lot so you need to keep on working to keep you happy with what you are. Do not think that you must do good just to prove you are good but to remind yourself that you are good. You could even keep a diary to help you see for the person you forget to pat on the back when you achieve something is most often yourself. You can’t lose the insight of how good you are for it encourages you to do better in the future.
 
Do not love yourself because of your good works or even love yourself on the basis that you will be very good and nice if your past is not much to be proud of. Love yourself unconditionally. No matter what you do, you ought to love yourself which means grabbing happiness eagerly with both hands. Not loving or liking yourself will not do you or anybody else any good at all. But loving and liking yourself will make you of benefit to yourself and others for it makes you happy to be a force for good in the world.

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PRINCIPLE 9, EGOISM IS THE WAY TO GO!

The Ninth Principle of Self-love is to see that you must do everything altruists say you must do but the only difference is to have respect for yourself. This way you manage to retain the benefits of altruism and improve on it by putting in some egoism. Egoism is good and harmless. Even if neither altruism or egoism is perfect, we should go for egoism for egoism is the best of the two.

To practise self-love properly and to win the blessings it gives you have to do EVERYTHING you do because you love solely yourself. You do not help the sick man lying on the street because it is your duty. Duty is a dirty word. You do it because you want to prove that you are good and not to others but to yourself though the positive feedback from others will help you see your goodness better. In plain language, you do it to feel or at least think better about yourself though you already feel good about yourself. You do it to open up your powers to make yourself happy by having this reminder about how good you are. That is a good thing only as long as you are sure you will not feel bad about yourself if you fail to be good. If that happens get up and make amends straight away. If you know the secret of happiness, which is to realise that you don’t need anything but yourself, you will manage to keep a firm hold on your high regard for yourself. When others ask for help and they really need it then help them because you see it as an invitation from them to love yourself by improving yourself and for you to feel you are making a good difference in the world. Make everything you do a gift to yourself telling yourself that you love yourself and are open to the pleasure of happiness because everything you do is for your own pleasing anyway even if it is something you feel you can’t get out of doing but the only trouble is we keep forgetting how to draw the best feelings out of what we do. In other words, you do what good you do not for others but for you.
 
When I help a person because I like them and go to a lot of trouble for it people say I am unselfish. This is not true and they know it. Liking is a self-centred act. It means I get something out of helping them. That is what I am doing it for. Let me explain. Liking you means only that I get pleasure from you. It is not you I value but what I get out of you.

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PRINCIPLE 10, DISTRACTED SELFISHNESS IS YOUR SALVATION

The Tenth Principle of Self-love is that when doing kind deeds you will be happier if you forget what is in it for you and this act of forgetting is itself an act of self-love. When you have problems no matter how small it always helps to get your mind off yourself by keeping busy. This is a selfish act for you seek the pleasure of forgetting about what bothers you.
 
How does this square with saying that we must not do good works to earn praise and self-esteem but do them to remind us how good we are for that is trying to get something out of it for ourselves? But you only do things because you desire to and want gratification. You always want to feel good about yourself and this is the only exception. That is why you can help an ingrate and still be an egoist. It is easier to do good to be able to perceive yourself as good than it is to do good to get other people’s thanks or their money or favours. It’s more satisfying and therefore more selfish in the good way.

It is when you forget about what good doing good to others will do for you that you reap quality happiness and become happy with yourself. The reason is that desire is pain because it means wanting what you do not have yet and when you put it out of your mind you get the happiness you crave. Also, the best happiness is got by being happy in the present moment for to focus too much on the future is scary for you don’t even know if you will get it and you are more sure of the present moment. Yes you are doing good to make yourself happy and you are loving only yourself by doing this good but you are forgetting about the results IN ORDER TO RECEIVE THAT HAPPINESS. You are still doing good just to make yourself happy. Self-esteem is not feeling brilliant about yourself all the time. Self-esteem is forgetting thrills in order to develop personal peace of mind. If you are unhappy take your mind off yourself by going out and doing something for others and in time your mind will be purified of the dross that afflicts it.

We Humanists are hedonists, that is, we believe right and wrong are about having fun and avoiding suffering. We practice a form of hedonism that is designed to maximise the happiness we can have in this world for ourselves and everybody else too. We practice individualism the only way it can be properly practised. We are materialists because we value our lives in this world and our feelings. Our lives and our feelings are material things. We are even more materialists than those who love money for unlike them we know how to get the best out of being materialistic.

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PRINCIPLE 11, SEE THAT YOU ARE NOT A SINNER

The Eleventh Principle of Self-love is that you should never condemn yourself no matter what you do but believe that what wrong you do is not you but faults in the programming in you. This attitude will remove guilt gradually.

Try your best and do not feel guilty if you fail for you did your best. You have learned from the experience and you will do better in the future if not at this thing then something as good or better. Good is all about making yourself happy the right way – when you do evil you were trying to do this but were just wrong. Focus on what you got right for it is what counts. Nothing you do is ever all bad.

Every experience be it bad or good means you are a success. Doing wrong does not make you a bad person but a person who does bad things and you have what it takes to succeed when you can do bad! You are still a person that has tried to do the wrong kind of good and you still have much to praise yourself for.

Don’t want to be perfect and that will enable you to do the equivalent of forgiving yourself. Nobody likes people who come across as perfect. Just accept yourself as you are and since you love yourself in doing this, changes for the better will take place automatically. Start accepting yourself right now this very second even if you have done something awful in the last five minutes because you can and why wait? You have done the most meaningful thing ever for yourself and others by accepting yourself that you could do so that means just accepting yourself and your past which you cannot change entitles you to praise and adore and love yourself for it is the supreme good work and blots out the bad deeds. Many people would find your bad points to make you a more interesting person and you can find a way to make them win friends and respect for you. Better to have people gossip about you behind your back for they enjoy it meaning they are glad to have you around than for them to find you boring.
 
Improve yourself as much as you can. But remember you will never be perfect and big deal! Improve yourself as best you can but like the faults you have left. Be sure to let your dark side emerge in the best way possible for you. This evil is not really evil then. What it is, is neutral for you cannot live without having some faults and you need to be a little nasty now and again.
 
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PRINCIPLE 12, BE YOUR OWN PERSON

The Twelfth Principle of Self-love is that you must not worry about what others think but just do good so that what bad things they think become insignificant. This involves the abandonment of the concept of a nosey God.

To worry about what others think too much is trying to put the approval of others before yourself. You alone are the reason why you feel that way about their approval so you can change yourself to do without it. It is a sure indication of perverted self-esteem. It is the same if you worry about what God thinks. Since it is what you think about you that matters, cut all ties with all the gods that humanity has invented. If you be a blessing in the lives of others from day to day you will find that their disapproval won’t scare you for there is so much good that makes any real or imagined wrong you are accused of fail to make you downcast. Why should it? It is only a drop of dirt in a well of pure water. To stop yourself being hurt by the disapproval of others you must do good works and be conscious that their opinion is not necessarily right and that they are degrading and ultimately embarrassing themselves by trying to manipulate you.

Find people who may accept you for what you are. They might be counsellors or whatever but remember that they are there for you and that will help you. You will develop self-esteem faster if you make friends but you must make sure that you will outgrow needing them – they are only to help you get you to stand on your own two feet by yourself. The proper relationship with them is when you don’t need them but have them as reminders that you are an okay person so that you and they can enjoy being together.

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