HOME   People do good because they are human, not because they are religious! 

Do not give God any credit for the good they do, they did it!

 

The meaning(s) of life comes from the journey not the goal
 

"There can be no doubt that our brains thrive on novelty which is why happiness and wellbeing should never be the destination but the journey"
Michelle McQuaid, From Functioning to Flourishing.

 

Do you only ever put movies on to see how they end? You play football. You enjoy it. You do not use football to get pleasures. Football is the pleasure.

 

Do you ever read only the last chapter of a book? It is the journey the movie or game or book takes to the every end that matters more than the end. You miss out on the fun by worrying only about goals or ends. They are not that important. It is better to enjoy the now than to be too future-focused.
 
You struggle through family disapproval, rejection, time-consuming exercise and injury to become an Olympic athlete. Is it all worth it? If you reach the goal you MAY feel that it is. Suppose you do feel. But that may be how you feel and may not be a reflection of the reality. It is easy to feel that it is worth it when it is not. People forget that the goal is only a focus. It is the means to the goal and the goal itself that are fulfilling and important. The means to the goal are actually more important than the goal. It is the means to the goal that give the goal meaning. Hence what really gives meaning to life is the journey not the destination. 
 
Religion by offering a Heaven where every tear is wiped away and telling us that this world will pass away and it is only truly Heaven that matters is trying to spoil the meaning that the journey gives us. It arrogantly focuses on the goal. If you really believe that this life is only a stop on the way to the life that really matters then you shouldn't be able to derive meaning from religious belief. If you feel there is meaning in your life, then it is because you don't really believe that religious stuff after all!
 
The journey is mainly or totally about being prepared. Preparing yourself for suffering and evil and death actually mean you bless your own life. No goal means anything unless you are prepared for it. The preparing makes it matter.
 
The well-balanced person is not afraid of inevitable disaster. She accepts it and promises herself she will make the best of whatever happens which is why she needs to accept it. She considers herself to be a worthwhile person who deserves nice things and to have a positive and good self-image. She sees her faults as flaws that have to happen but which do not make her a bad person. They make her an interesting person provided she channels the inclination to evil in the best and most sensible way possible. God wants the evil in her destroyed for he is perfect as Jesus said. Therefore God is a roadblock to mental stability. She does not need God at all but only self-esteem and self-compassion. To have God as a support is to take the long road to happiness and is therefore incompatible with self-esteem and self-compassion which requires that you grab happiness as fast as possible and as is reasonable. Also when it is your doing that you have faith in God and if that helps you that means you can help yourself without it and should have. Unbelievers in a life after death and in God can be very stable and happy meaning that those who believe are ill. Commitment to religion is a mental disorder. God and gods have been made up for one purpose only and that is to make people dependent on the clergy by breaking down their faith in themselves so that they need the clergy and religion to control them.