HOME   People do good because they are human, not because they are religious! 

Do not give God any credit for the good they do, they did it!

 

SHOULD CHILDREN BE EXPOSED TO CHRISTIANITY?
 
How dogmatic and fundamentalist Christians groom children and harm them:
 
"They are highly submissive to established authority, aggressive in the name of that authority, and conventional to the point of insisting everyone should behave as their authorities decide. They are fearful and self-righteous and have a lot of hostility in them that they readily direct toward various out-groups. They are easily incited, easily led, rather un-inclined to think for themselves, largely impervious to facts and reason, and rely instead on social support to maintain their beliefs. They bring strong loyalty to their in-groups, have thick-walled, highly compartmentalized minds, use a lot of double standards in their judgments, are surprisingly unprincipled at times, and are often hypocrites. But they are also Teflon-coated when it comes to guilt. They are blind to themselves, ethnocentric and prejudiced, and as closed-minded as they are narrow-minded. They can be woefully uninformed about things they oppose, but they prefer ignorance and want to make others become as ignorant as they. They are also surprisingly uninformed about the things they say they believe in, and deep, deep, deep down inside many of them have secret doubts about their core belief. But they are very happy, highly giving, and quite zealous"
 
"Over time, this authoritarian conditioning breeds a sense of personal inadequacy and endangerment. The traumatized self becomes angry, hostile, and resentful. However, because the religion that produces, legitimizes, and represses the trauma is beyond question, the traumatized individual remains blind to its causes. This leads to authoritarian aggression, that personality trait Dr. Altemeyer describes as a “little volcano of hostility bubbling away inside of them looking for a (safe, approved) way to erupt.”
 
 - See more at: http://www.goodnewsclubs.info

Many believe that a child being raised in a religious tradition encourages the child to learn from religion and hopefully commit to the religion. It is thought to be better than having the child see religion as a private matter which leads to people dropping out of the social side of religion and creating collections of individuals and not communities. The risk of indoctrination is thought to be worth it.

Many children are raised in terribly dysfunctional family setups whereby they are neglected and abused. A surprisingly high number grow up to be normal upstanding people. Some however do not. A religion often carries on like it is the child's real family and overrides the child's family. Many religions hurt children with their superstitions and their moral and tribal taboos. That a child can suffer terribly and still come through it well does not justify any of the harm done by dysfunctional families. And religion is the quintessential dysfunctional family and its speciality is lies. If the child grows up to become the adult from Hell, the blame may lie entirely with the religion.

This work explicates the mental, "spiritual" and emotional damage that the Christian faith can do to a child. Children who are spared this have been exposed to a Christianity that has not been implemented properly and which has been presented in a very sweetened up way. Self-esteem problems stem from childhood. Christianity is to blame for the biggest problems because it tells children it is their biggest thing. Even liberal versions of the faith teach things such as that God in the form of Jesus wants us to believe in what he has revealed in the Church and live it and that God by definition is the being who must be loved most of all. Any religion that seeks to be the dominant influence and value in the life of a child risks inflicting, directly or indirectly, psychological harm on them. Some therapists and parents believe that if a child does wrong, he or she should suffer low self-esteem as a consequence. Even that is okay, what is not okay is religion trying to give them something extra to dislike and hate themselves for. Consider how the child who tells a lie may suffer low self-esteem for it - that child will suffer more if she sees the lie as not only bad in itself but also as an affront to God!
 
THE DEMAND
 
I demand in the interest of the rights of the child that the deliberate exposure of children to Christian propaganda for recruitment purposes be made illegal.
 
Our children are the future of our world. It is important that if anything that exists that may or does damage them psychologically can be prohibited by the force of law that it be done. The rights of children come before their parents and priests and teachers in many respects for they are so young and are at their developmental stage mentally and emotionally. Parents have no right to determine the religious beliefs of the child for religion is a private matter.
 
We do not want our children exposed to excessive violence or pornography on television but we do nothing about the far more insidious and deadly spiritual pornography that is dished out by the Churches.
 
Remember faith and reason cannot be equal. Reason implies willingness to revise your views and correct them. So if it is wrong to denigrate faith it is even more wrong to denigrate reason. To indoctrinate children into a faith is denigrating reason.
 
Instilling humanistic or non-religious values in children is bad. But instilling religious values is worse. Both are forms of indoctrination and this is wrong for these things should be their decision and nobody else's. It is okay to help children find the values themselves.
 
A little religious knowledge or spiritual knowledge is worse than none at all. If people knew these things better they would not be taken in by religious and spiritual charlatans such as the Medjugorje visionaries and the local tarot reader. Children are usually fed enough religion or spirituality to try and get them hooked and they become easy fodder for their religion and maybe even another religion.
 
We take it for granted that a person should stand by his beliefs unless something turns up that shows them to be incorrect or wrong. Religion is taking advantage of that principle. If it is true that we are born programmed for religion, surely it is all the more reason for us NOT to be indoctrinated. There is a danger like most people that we will be drawn to feel that if we are going to err then we would rather err with the majority. That impulse helps explain how religion conditions people.
 
Children have alarmingly strong self-justifying tendencies. A child will bully a child and claim that she deserved it. Religion and the concept of deserving go together. There would be no need for religion unless it was thought people deserve bad things or good things. It is even based on the notion that God deserves service and love from us. Religion only makes the child a bigger self-justifier than he is and that leads to a boost in aggression and to sectarian devotion. A vicious circle appears. The more the child harms others the more self-justification is necessary. And if he cannot justify himself before parents and others he will turn to God for justification and feel he has got it. And the more self-justification then the more aggression appears. And when enough children go that way and grow up like that the more religious persecution they will foment.
 
When adults look back to their faith in Christ, will this bring back memories of hope, imagination and joy? Did Jesus give you magical moments in which you experience a perfect world just for a fleeting moment? This experience is considered so special for a child that it is reasoned that it Santa makes childhood special so parents lying that Santa exists is acceptable.
 
The recruitment of children to the following must be ceased immediately by legal force:
 
# To faiths that insist we must look after others because it pleases God - all our love must manifest our complete love of God. A child who struggles with self-esteem and depression and abuse does not need to hear her parents encouraged to see her just as a tool with which to please God.
 
# To forms of faith that see messages from angels and Heaven and God in virtually everything. One risk is that a child might jump off a cliff thinking he will be saved by an angel. Or a child might think she is getting warnings about a person. That can lead to an innocent person being hounded.
 
# To forms of faith that require you to approve of evil and murder - even if they are peaceful now. An example is children being told that the Bible is infallible despite its Jesus having demanded vengeance by the stoning to death of adulterers. If you do not engage in acts of violence you still revere them.
 
# Serious superstition is a great evil. You don't want to create a world where you hold that if somebody walks under a ladder and then dies horribly shortly after that they brought it on themselves by asking for bad luck.
 
NEVER ALONE
 
A young child thinks in very literal ways. A child can be freaked out by the thought that God sees her or him going to the toilet. We all need to be alone. Sometimes we want to feel totally responsible for what decision we are going to make. We want to be literally on our own. A child might want to be totally alone and unwatched and telling him or her that there is a God who is everywhere and who sees all and who keeps all things in existence is robbing the child of that.
 
God judges a nice person as fit for everlasting torment on the basis of one or two "sinful" acts. For example, you go to Hell no matter how much charity work you are doing if you have sex with somebody else's spouse. To tell a child to befriend a God like that is child abuse pure and simple.
 
HARMFUL IDEA THAT WE MUST LOVE GOD ABOVE ALL
 
The doctrine that God comes first which was taught by Jesus (and which is still taught by the Church) urges you to do what you find harmful as long as God commands it for God knows best.
 
If I avoid my father who wants to convert me to paganism so that my faith in God is safe from him then I am doing this for my faith and am trusting in God. But what if there is no God? Is it right to hurt and disown my father over a collection of beliefs? Of course not. Children are hurt and damaged merely by being taught that God exists. The doctrine that God comes first means that you have to enshrine God’s laws in the law of the land so it is undoubtedly true that religion is a threat to freedom.
 
Even a child finds out easily that there are as many views of God as there are people. The Church wants the child to accept its view and its interpretation of what God wants which really means that the child is being encouraged to let the Church think for her. This can cause a grave defect in self-confidence and indeed is meant to so that the child becomes a mind-slave of the Church. Whether you like the beliefs or not you have to accept them and beliefs are valued above people.
 
When you say with Christianity and Islam that God comes first what you mean is belief in God comes first and matters more than human beings. You are saying that what the leaders say about God matters and is the truth. It is really man's ideas about God that are being put first - God is another matter. You are saying that we must bring in rules from another world that sees a purpose in them that we can never understand on earth when we are deciding about right and wrong. A nasty universe means God's plan simply has to be nasty too in many respects. This can be used as an excuse for bringing in bad rules. Rules like this are the reason we have seen women dying because those who they depended on did not give them an abortion to save their lives because God had forbidden it.
 
In religious faith, you are to believe that goodness is not just an abstract but is God. That means that God must come first. That means that if you have a doubt or even disbelieve you are committing a grave wrong and doing harm. As a child I had doubts and I was persecuted by the very concept of God a concept that incites to prejudice and discrimination against atheist and agnostic people and often doubters as well.
 
HIDDEN DOCTRINES
 
There are lots of little evil things in Church teachings they prefer to say nothing about. For example they approve of God making the Virgin Mary pregnant when she was almost a child herself and childbirth was horrendous for girls her age due not only to age factors but also to the malnourished state of poor women in general. They approve of and recognise the Virgin’s marriage in childhood to Joseph so they condone paedophilia. Marriage is for sexual rights and Joseph by marrying Mary even if he never slept with her was still declaring that it was his right to do so. The Church however praises them for allegedly not having sex which means basically that their wedding was a lie.
 
The people are never properly informed about problems about the philosophical, ethical, scriptural and historical accuracy of the religion. The clergy lies. They censor books to ensure the faithful only read what they want them to read.

DOCTRINES HARMFUL TO CHILDREN
 
If a doctrine is harmful, it is empowered by being made non-testable or if it is rigged so that if the victim sees through it she will not have the confidence to trust her judgement. A non-testable doctrine is harmful in itself for it disrespects your right to look at the evidence and be confident in the truth.
 
An example is how you are told that certain prayers always make you a better person. If they don't work you are accused of failing to see that they have. You are told that God has a plan and is working for good and if you can't see it then God works in ways we cannot understand. Or you are accused of not really being sincere.
 
There is no concern for young people who may find out that their religion is man-made and not from God or that their saviour did not save anybody and how they may end up feeling like they have been hugely betrayed and unable to trust anybody ever again. They feel betrayed at how they were given a best friend such as God or Jesus or a saint who turned out to be anything but friends.
 
The fundamental Christian doctrines that Jesus died to pay for our sins to let us off with our sins and rose from the dead to verify this doctrine accuses the child of killing Jesus by being a sinner and the Hell doctrine is terrifying for obvious reasons.
 
The Eucharist or Mass depends on the notion that Jesus died for sins so it is bad for children.
 
A child sees things in a very concrete way and it is not right to make a child feel she has engaged in cannibalism by eating Jesus' body and drinking his blood.
 
People should do good because they want to and not to avoid the everlasting tormenting punishment of Hell so Hell is a corrupting doctrine. A child will do good to avoid Hell which will cause the child to see morality as something scary and freedom and something bad and that he or she has no right to. Hell implies you have the right to accuse yourself of being bad enough to stay in a place of torment forever. You do not have the right to demean yourself like that and it will impact on other people too for you are not an island. Innocent until proven guilty. And you hypothetically judge others - "If you commit certain sins and die you will suffer Hell forever and it is all your fault." The if does not make it non-judgemental. I
 
These doctrines scare children and are cruel for that reason. They are child abuse.
 
A child does not know the way the world and universe works. Thus the child is prone to thinking she sees people and entities that are in fact not there. The child lives in a world of miracle and magic. Suppose a child reads the Bible which speaks of people going into furnaces and not getting burned. What if the child risks putting her hand in the fire? It is natural for a child to feel magic is true, but that does not mean you must encourage that feeling. Religion does and takes no responsibility for the potential damage.
  
ASKED TO ACCEPT YOUR DEATH
 
In religious faith, you are taught to accept your death as your due at the hands of God and to trust him. No being however great has the right to ask you to trust him that far.  The message this gives is that when you can encourage your own death by accepting it from God then murdering a person because your faith tells you to cannot be wrong either.

CHILDREN DON’T NEED RELIGIOUS INDOCTRINATION
 
Religion says that we are sinners and are thus slaves to sin. It is said it may take a lifetime to become significantly less enslaved. Religion sees sin as being full of promise but which lets you down in the end. So sinning is you lying to yourself and about being drawn to something that looks good but which is far from good. So sin conditions you. Sin is conditioning. So the doctrine that we are all sinners ADMITS THAT OUR TENDENCY TO BE CONDITIONED IS VIRTUALLY PATHOLOGICAL AND UNIVERSAL. That being the case we must be extremely careful about how we deal with children and others who have this tendency. But in fact we see religion caring very little about truth and virtue and the emphasis is on making the child a Catholic or whatever.
 
We are all conditioned day by day by the influences and pressures around us. A child is far more susceptible to conditioning than us adults. Religion recognises this which is why religion considers it so important that it gets children classed as members and makes sure they grow up thinking the religion is true. Even if they become atheists later in life, there will always be some traces of the brainwashing. For example, the ex-Christian might still feel huge self-disgust with having sex.

The book Christianity is Not Great says, "We don't mean to force anyone to stop paying cult and homage to their deities ... as long as public safety and human rights are not infringed". But children are being harmed by being brought up as Christians when they don't know about the violence commanded by God in the Bible.

Religion if man-made will have some terrible elements among the good elements. What about children who are conditioned to believe it all? It will haunt many of them forever. Most of the unacceptable stuff is put there in childhood by those who raise the child. If the child is raised in a faith that says there is nothing in her that pleases God and that eternal torture in Hell is possible and the child is given no chance to form an alternative view or if the child is told to feel responsible for killing Jesus on the cross by her sins then not only are the doctrines bad but the way they are presented is simply abusive. The child was never allowed to make a choice.

 
There is no need for teaching religion to a child. If anything the moral principles that every system agrees on - be it Mormonism or Humanism or whatever - should be taught. However, even morality should not be taught though many would disagree. Controversial moral teachings like blood transfusions being immoral and contraception being absolutely forbidden by God should not be and there is no doubt that people should agree that this is so.
 
Parents should give good example and explain why they do the things they do. This is letting the children teach themselves by observing their parents and those around them. Children must not be told how to behave but must see good example and its benefits. For example, if they see their mother refusing to get angry but remaining diplomatic when somebody insults her they will learn from that provided she explains why she did it.
 
To tell a child what to believe is an act of violence against that child for they will feel they have to abide by rules whether they make sense or not. This would result in very harmful conditioning that will haunt them destructively for the rest of their lives. Nobody can obey rules they don’t understand or be asked to do it without feeling their freedom is belittled. It makes them feel they are stupid for they are being treated like they are stupid. That is one reason why the doctrine that God does things and makes rules that seem very bizarre to us is so cruel and harmful.
 
No conditioning is harmless. It is out to stop you being your own person. It is out to make you live somebody else’s dream. If you believe in God then you are living the dream of the religion that teaches you there is a God.
 
Children do not need religion like adults do (if adults need it at all!). They have little interest in prayer and learning about God. This suggests that the need for religion comes from the insecurity that surfaces as one is growing up.
 
INDOCTRINATION IS SECTARIANISM
 
Teaching a religion as the truth is blatant sectarianism which no state can tolerate. There is no reason why one religion should be imbued into a child and not another for they all differ and each one says the others are wrong.
 
Allowing a child to be conditioned by religion is pleasing the clergy and giving them the advantage not God. This isn’t about God. It is about power and money. Religion has no right to command parents to indoctrinate and have their children indoctrinated. Religion has no right to use the public schools to indoctrinate children. It is very irresponsible because it is plain that human beings in general and especially children are too easily conditioned and taken advantage of.
 
Religion says we sin a great great deal and need to repent every day. Religion says that sin is a product of being conditioned by irrationality. If we are indeed so irrational and easily conditioned then that makes it clear that religion is consciously manipulating easy targets.
 
Conditioning a child to need the Church and its God makes the child fearful of the loss of faith and leads to fundamentalism which thrives on the fear of modernity and that on top of the secular agenda is to stamp religion out.
  
CONCLUSION
 
The clergy has manipulated parents and society to help them obtain new recruits. This is not in the interest of the child. If the law will not stop this, then society should make it unacceptable. Child protection has progressed in ways that people never imagined would happen. It is time some unpleasant surprises appeared for the clerical regime that seeks an unfair advantage over children.

 

Debate and integrity are vital but the problem with people of faith is that often they mistake the brainwashing they got as children and force of habit for faith. I think there are less people of faith in religion and among its leadership that you would realise. If faith is good then what passes largely for faith certainly is not. Real believers would see God as a God of evidence and respect evidence so much that if it led them to atheism or another religion they would comply. Belief should not be equated with closed mindedness.  Religion concentrates so much on indoctrinating children that it seems that this is not really about instilling faith but making the children think they have faith and to keep them trapped for life.
 
Religious Indoctrination is Child Abuse.
 
UN News - Children's right to freedom of religion or belief must be protected, says UN expert

The United Nations expert on religious freedom is calling on all Governments represented at the UN General Assembly “to respect religious practices by children and their families and support families in fulfilling their role in providing an enabling environment."
 
The "expert" Heiner Bielefeldt is a Catholic theologian. He says, "“The rights of parents to freedom of religion or belief include their rights to educate their children according to their own conviction and to introduce their children to religious initiation rites.” Does that include Satanism or some religion that kills animals for sacrifice such as Santeria? Reason says the parents should share values about how to treat others with their children. That is what they have the right to do. It is silly to imagine that parents have the right to tell their children not to lie or steal or Satan will drag them down to Hell or Jesus will send them there. There is no concern for a child's right to freedom from religion who gravitates towards secular interests or spiritual as opposed to religious ones.