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A revision of a facebook post concerning mental health

What is mental health? It is a feeling of self-worth and a sense of freedom from all the aspects of our cultural conditioning which is manipulating us and telling us who we should be, worrying and fearing what others think of us etc etc.

All these things are giving false expectations for ourselves. It is a potential and actual mindset that you need to overcome. It is discovering who we are and what life is about. If this isn't recognised and 'help' geared to this, it is a flailing around process.

THEREFORE RELIGION WHICH CARES LITTLE FOR EVIDENCE AND CONTAINS HARMFUL DOCTRINE AND TAKES ADVANTAGE OF A CHILD’S VULNERABLE MIND BY DEFAULT MUST DO AT LEAST SOME DAMAGE!  THE DIFFERENT RELIGIONS SHOW THAT IT IS NOT EVIDENCE OR LOGIC THAT IS AT WORK BUT CONDITIONING.  RELIGION IS A THREAT TO MENTAL HEALTH.  IT TENDS TO GET PEOPLE TO SEE THE SEEMING BENEFITS OR BENEFITS OF RELIGION BUT WHAT ABOUT THE BAD SIDE?

Mental health involves how we (mis) handle our emotional experiences and ego - and we all ( mis) handle these our own way. It is about how we "process" experiences : mental illnesses are not brain diseases as in damage like Alzheimer's.

Chemical effects in the brain are more likely to be the "symptom" rather than the cause.

So its about "mindset".

However:

Tragically there has been a gross misunderstanding about certain words and phrases used in the matter of mental health .

Being "positive" does "not" mean be happy in a silly fake way but about being positive so that we can address things to resolve them "constructively" for our dignity.  It is about realising things can go wrong but trusting in your ability to try and trusting that you will learn if things go wrong.

As wrong as it is to lash out recklessly, repressing emotional issues because guilt, fear and shame inhibit us from dealing with matters that leave us feeling aggrieved or indignant will lead to depression (anger turned inward).  Physical disease can and will ensue - not least as a consequence of resorting to habits to a dangerous extent for cold comfort escapism or misguided sense of control in life ie addiction.  Using prayer to feel in control is bad as well.  You need to assess how much control you have so that you can deal with life effectively.

Anxiety speaks of insecurity and we take undue responsibility for situations or events. We then try to seek a sense of control in misguided ways. Some of this insecurity can be rooted in our basic sense of low self-worth and then we look to others for approval or validation mistakenly.

Medication has a place but often only masks over matters and it does have risks and side-effects.

Self-medicating is based on whatever you feel works for you.  That too often leads to the use of illegal substances, alcohol and junk food.  

People need to be careful not to condemn addicts.  For many addicts it is all about emotional torment. For others it is significantly about emotional torment.  Facing up to issues can be extremely painful.

Forgiveness is refusing to want to see the other punished for having hurt you.  It is about the other.  Moving on is a different matter.  Forgiveness is about the other person.  Moving on is about you.  Too many confuse the two.

Moving on can happen within an  arrangement or life situation or away from it.

Of course some things can't be resolved and we try to live with that as best we can.  Mourning the loss the person who hurt you inflicted on you is key. Mourning what the person could have been but did not be is helpful.

Mourning is better than moving on in the sense that it does work through the bad bits.  There is no chance of anything being ignored or pushed to the back of your mind.  Forgiveness is not a good suggestion.   

Everyone suffers depression anxiety at some point as the consequence of certain life events, but some of us may be inclined to it as part of a personality trait. Managing mental health involves respecting our shared humanity.

People who are impatient with other's mental health symptoms are in fact secretly indulging their own self- pity which they would accuse others of.  They think they are not getting attention for their own problems and that the other person is getting it.

Venting in a safe space to someone trustworthy who listens without judgement gets things off our chest and seems to help.  Some suggest physically venting in a safe space.  It is more common for people to feel that venting is what makes things feel worse and its better to talk it out.

We need to bring our authentic selves to the world.  In some cases people who would tell us to "be positive" - would not like it if we were.  Nobody likes anybody who sees only the good in a bad situation for realism is vital and there is no rapport possible when you are suffering and the other person only thinks of the good things.  They are selfish.

At the socio-political level we are being gaslighted.  Take the government - it is being emotionally and psychologically abusive.  This reflects in the health system it creates for us.

People are set up for failure (the myth of meritocracy) but then feel themselves failures - hence skyrocketing depression anxiety rates.  So we are then deemed faulty and its profitable for the pharmaceutical industry to get GPs to fob people off with meds.  Even if you suspect GPs are too ready to diagnose sadness as depression accounting for the increase in statistics to dish out medication this itself betrays something cynical and lazy about the system.

The patient is being as good as told he or she is a nuisance not worth proper help and not worth self-empowering so medication is given as the easy way out to fix this nuisance.  It is like the person is seen as a machine who needs a medicine crutch,

Religion, particularly Christianity, sets people up to fail too.  They are given graces and sacraments that have no spiritual transforming power.  They are told that Gods